Every woman wants to be considered beautiful, right? We want to be like that woman in the song who is noticed when she walks into a room. We want to stand out amongst others, have toned legs, tight stomachs, luxurious hair in the dove commercials and perfect white teeth. Lets face it though the majority of women in the world don't have all of these qualities.
I follow a lot of fitness women on Instagram and they post photographs of themselves working out or in their itsy, bitsy, teeny, weeny workout outfit with a six pack and I become discouraged. I think, wow I've been working out for a while now and am not even close to reaching that goal. Let me tell you girls, this thought process will destroy you. I found myself watching work out videos or wanting to workout over spending time in the Word. My mind was slowly shifting from focusing on Christ to focusing on what my body would one day look like if I did so many burpees or push-ups. I was losing sight of the main goal of why I'm here.
Paul exhorted the Church in Philippi saying, "Brethren, I do not regard myself as having laid hold of it yet; but one thing I do : forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus." Phil. 3:13-14 The goal is Christ and living in a way that points others toward Christ in order that they would be saved. So I asked myself, what does being beautiful look like and how might it point people to Christ?
In scripture a woman isn't rewarded or praised for her physical beauty but rather the characteristics she displays. Given, that doesn't mean you should start dressing frumpy, never wearing make-up and letting your hair be a mess. No, no, no! I love make-up and funky clothing! It is good to look beautiful on the outside so long as it doesn't distract from others knowing Christ first. I have admired many beautiful women who dressed stylish, with make-up and loved Christ with all of that they are, but their characteristics were what set them apart from other beautiful women. I have compiled a list of a few things that set these Godly women apart.
A beautiful woman is:
- Gentle and quiet in spirit. (1 Peter 3:3-4) This is developed through trusting in God. He becomes the focus of our lives and we no longer focus on ourselves but Christ and what He has done.
- Gracious and Honorable. "A gracious woman gets honor, and violent men get riches." Proverbs 11:16. Webster's 1828 dictionary defines gracious as being, Favorable; kind; benevolent; merciful; disposed to forgive offenses and impart unmerited blessings.
- Faithful and Trustworthy. "Even so must their wives be grave, not slanders, sober; FAITHFUL IN ALL THINGS." 1 Timothy 3:11. "The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain." Proverbs 31:11
- A Helper. Then the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for Him." Genesis 2:18
- Strong, Wise, Kind, Dignified. "Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she smiles at the future. She opens her mouth in wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue." Proverbs 31:25-26
If you are interested in finding more I encourage you to look into Proverbs 31. You will find that the whole chapter is about what a woman of God looks like! When you become discouraged about your appearance or whether or not you think of yourself as beautiful then turn to the Word. Remember your focus and your purpose. Christ died so that we might live a life for Him. He is gracious and kind and "all who look to Him are radiant, their faces are never covered in shame." (Ps. 34:5). When we focus on Christ He will make us radiant, thus making us beautiful, because He is beautiful.
I will leave you with this quote by Leslie Ludy, "Think about it. A woman who has truly denied herself, taken up her cross, and become entirely consumed with Jesus Christ is not going to be an insecure young woman, starving herself and obsessed with making herself look more attractive. Rather, she's so enraptured with Jesus Christ that she's completely lost sight of herself." (The Lost Art of True Beauty)